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Is My Husband Gay? Signs of a Gay Husband
Sometimes a lady may have been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may locate herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, , an specialist in women married to queer men, it is estimated that 4 million women have been, or are, married to homosexual men. If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.
Signs of a Gay Husband – Is My Man Gay?
The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of lgbtq+ husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't contact this place of honesty on their own. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the queer husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.
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Since my essay, “My Husband Is Having an AffairWith a Man,” was published, I have received many, many comments. Although some of the comments were supportive, many of them were challenging, such as this one:
Sadly, most married, closeted gay men are manipulative, narcissistic con artists who only think about themselves with only occasional feelings of guilt and remorse. Their decision to leave or stay in their marriages is never out of consideration for the wife. [The comments—mostly from women—have been edited slightly]. Her comment made me angry and defensive.
I really am sorry for your pain. I be aware that anything more I say risks suggesting that you’re not entitled to your pain. That is not my intent.
My father died in a farm accident when I was 3 years old, creating a cloud that cast a dark shadow over me for most of my early life. Three themes dominated my thoughts: 1. Being a male was dangerous. 2. If I survived, I would be the best father any kid ever had. 3. My father’s death fractured my sense of manliness. These things nourished my denial of my same-sex attractions
An Intense Fight With My Husband Has Me Convinced Our Entire Life Is a Lie
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Dear How to Do It,
Please help. I’m pretty sure my husband of more than 20 years is gay.
Some background: I have anxiety, and anxiety can come with paranoia at times. He’s been my only sexual partner, and we were married when I was in my first 20s. We are of similar ages, but he had been in other sexual relationships, which was fine with me. I just hadn’t. Now, plus years and multiple kids later, half our marriage has been him not wanting to own much to undertake with physical stuff like kissing, cuddling, or sex—unless I perform on him, usually. I am lonely as hell. We sleep in the same bed, but I experience like we are just roommates. He’s not super express, and I’ve brought this conversation up so many times up over the last 15 or so years, but every time there’s another reason: He has bad breath; he’s tired; he just wants to be with his friends (I’m not invited). He says every time I bring it
My Husband’s Not Gay, a show on TLC, has caused an uproar. The negative attention is unfortunate because this could hold been a show that highlighted mixed-orientation couples and how these couples can actually make their relationships work.
Why do some people become so outspoken and judgmental about marriages with one straight and one gay spouse? There are several reasons. These marriages raise concerns about infidelity. They bring out people’s judgments about what marriage should or should not be. In particular, they bring out people’s assessments about monogamy.
Finally, these relationships suggest to some people “reparative therapy,” the unethical and impossible claim that a person can be changed from gay to straight. The men in this television program aren’t claiming to be ex-gay nor that they can change their sexual orientation (at least not on the show). They state they are attracted to men but choose not to live as a gay man and their straight wives accept this.
People seem to get up in arms when a man says he is not gay but rather simply attracted to men. In our cultu