Gay relationship age gap
Gay Relationship Advice: Age Gaps in Gay Relationships
Many of my LGBTQ counseling clients ask me why they are only attracted to gay men younger than themselves. If you are happy online dating gay men in their twenties, then this question is not important. It&#;s like asking &#;Why do I prefer blondes over brunettes?&#; My advice is to let yourself enjoy dating whomever interests you (as long as they are over the age of 18).
Age gap relationships are more common than you may realize. In western countries:
- 1 out of every twelve male/female couples has an age gap of 10 years or more
- that number increase to 25% in male/male couples
- and 15% of female/female relationships
That same study indicated that age gap partners are more satisfied and more committed to each other than partners of similar age–though there is some analyze that points to a correlation with higher rates of divorce. Research also shows that couples with an age gap of less than ten years are happier than those with an age gap greater than ten years. You can find more details on these stats on this episode of the pod
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Dear Kai,
We&#;re a gay male couple, aged 23 and 45 years old respectively—call us Chicken (the younger guy) and Hawk (the older guy). We met on Grindr a couple years ago.
Hawk: I make a very solid salary as a marketing director, and I’m supporting Chicken financially as he goes through university. We also live together in my condo. I deeply, truly love Chicken, and I want nothing but the optimal for him—I realize our age difference is fairly large, but I sense that we are soulmates. I would never want to take advantage of him, and I’ve let Chicken realize that he should never feel that he “owes” me anything just because of our financial situation. I possess never been happier in my existence, but some of my friends are reacting quite unfavorably to our relationship—they say our age difference makes them uncomfortable and that I’m cradle-robbing, so to speak. One friend has . .