What do women think of gay men
by Fred Penzel, PhD
This article was initially published in the Winter edition of the OCD Newsletter.
OCD, as we know, is largely about experiencing severe and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that among a group of college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. ). In organize to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer want not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual encounter at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as well. Interestingly Swedo, et al., , initiate that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.
Although doubts about one’s own sexual identity might sound pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most apparent form is where a sufferer experiences the thought that they mig
&#;Some of the worst misogyny I&#;ve experienced has come from gay men. It can feel almost more gross than it does from straight men. It&#;s like, you&#;re not even trying to express sexual interest in me, you&#;re just asserting your dominance over my body just because you&#;re a man—you&#;re just doing it because you can.&#;
Victoria Sin is a queer woman living in London and a female performative queen. When Sin recently appeared in a Broadly documentary about drag artistry, some gay men on Facebook angrily accused her of &#;appropriation&#; of homosexual culture and kingly. &#;What am I appropriating? It&#;s pure misogyny and so stupid on many levels,&#; she says.
The topic of misogyny among gay men is a tough one to broach. In my trial, men either simply refuse to accept the phenomenon exists, or the conversation is quickly derailed (&#;yeah, but what about homophobic women?&#;).
I&#;m bisexual and non-binary. When I presented as male, I also experienced misogyny from both vertical and gay men on the basis of my clear femininity. At a party attended mostly by gay men who worke
I'm a Woman Who's Sleeping With a Gay Dude (Yes, He's Still Gay)
For the past year, I’ve been having regular sex with a gay bloke I'll call Oliver. We were best friends for years, attending many Event parades and taking weekend hiking trips. But last year, after a very drunken night, we slept together—and we still are today. He maintains that he still is, and always has been, a gay man.
After the first time, we were predictably awkward and British about it. We laughed a bit that it had happened, and then we agreed we shouldn’t carry out it again.
That lasted maybe three days. The first few months had all the expected exciting parts of sleeping with your best bud, but they were also tinged with this brand new fresh thing. Oliver had never been with a lady before, and he was completely unaware of what a vulva or a clitoris was. Fortunately, Oliver had the benefit of my feminist Orgasm Gap rants over the past five years, and took to the task of making me come with admirable tenacity. One of the sweetest moments of that year was conclusion the book She Comes First on his
For years, friendships between unbent women and gay men have been a subject of pop culture fascination. Books, television shows and feature length films hold all highlighted this distinct relationship, noted for its closeness and depth.
But with society’s attitudes toward gays and lesbians changing, it’s become all the more important to build a holistic understanding of the relationships between gay and straight people.
As a researcher in social psychology, I’ve often wondered: why do straight female-gay male relationships work so well? Why are straight women so drawn to having lgbtq+ men as friends? And when do these relationships typically form?
During the course of my research, I’ve discovered that the most interesting, compelling – and, arguably, most theoretically coherent – explanation is through the lens of evolution.
Specifically, I believe evolutionary psychology and human mating can support explain why relationships between straight women and lgbtq+ men tend to flourish.
A safe bet
At first glance, this explanation may appear quite counterintuitive. (After all, strai